So I have been having sometime to myself doing a lot of introspection and thinking why the lines are getting blurred between black and white. It is a wonder how much an individual grows within their own life stories without even realizing it. Maybe that’s what is called as evolution and if that maybe the case then we all are continuously evolving emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually etc.
Lately, I was thinking about is it bad to become emotionally dependent on someone, especially in these times when human contact in itself is a privilege?
After experiencing it and mulling a lot over it I came to the conclusion it’s not bad at all as long as you put your trust in someone who won’t betray you and maybe that’s just being selfish but, if selfish is what keeps you sane and happy then so be it. Using someone to find your own happiness is never bad just don’t go about it the wrong way.
Human feelings are so strange, they are purely abstract and we can never see them physically but the irony is we sense them and see them manifest physically in a situation between people. We sense the ambience , the mood etc. just by looking at people or situation. It is weird that these feelings are the motivators , the driving forces behind our actions and intent.
I have been finding my own moods being affected by a person. If that had been the case few years back I would have reprimanded and controlled myself to not let my emotions or feelings or moods to be influenced by another person. However, now I realize that it is a part of process for you to grow as an individual and cope with all those feelings. Sometimes this emotional dependency on someone could even make you feel abandoned in a lot of ways if they don’t fulfill your expectations of them.
Sharing emotions is what makes us humans but it shouldn’t become an obsession or anything negative. What you do want to be careful is depending on someone who doesn’t feel the same way about you as you do. We need to find someone who can be our Earth pulling us towards them through their gravity and still not engulfing us into themselves but giving us the support to walk our own journey. We can’t depend on a wrong person because they might be like the moon and stars which look beautiful but will always be far making you chase them but never be able to attain them and sometimes not even see them.
First and foremost as individuals we are our own priority and letting other people dictate our emotions can be detrimental in the long run. Hence, everyone nowadays preaches about self love but the irony of the society we live in present times is that everyone wants love but nobody is ready to give it unconditionally. So, if you can ever find a person who feels like this Earth we walk on, grounding us and giving us then you have a jackpot in that person because you can depend on them and they will anchor you and help you grow as a person. However, this is only possible when the other person loves you too much to take that burden on themselves for you since, it is very emotionally taxing to always be there for someone but if two people can find it between themselves that they will always be there for each other whether emotionally, physically, financially, spiritually then what other blessing you can ask for because it is the greatest gift one can hope for.
What matters is that we evolve in a positive way and if a little help is required on the way then don’t be afraid to ask for it. Don’t be afraid to reach out your hand to hold onto someone else’s. You never know that hand could lead you to your destiny.
Brainchild 