Have you ever faced a situation where you feel you are really anxious and looking forward to that thing happening is also the thing you are afraid of because you don’t know how it will turn out? I have been through these kind of situations so many times and I ponder and ponder and ponder that what could be the best course of action when I come across them. I call them PARADOXICAL SITUATIONS.
Paradoxical situations are those situations which have two completely different paths for outcomes and both 180 degrees apart. They are like a blank canvas given to you. If you paint it the right way then you can create a masterpiece however, it can turn into a bad piece with a single wrong stroke of a brush whether done intentionally or unintentionally. So, maybe the job you are most excited about is also the one you fear what happens if something goes wrong? or the budding relationship with someone you feel anxious to know how it turns out. Maybe he is the right one and you cross your fingers the whole time for that outcome but maybe it turns out he is not.
The recent situation that I came across was when yesterday my friend asked how would you feel if you get married to a stranger? Aren’t you afraid of it happening? But after introspecting I gave her two answers to the same question. My first answer was that it’s a blank page I can write anything over it from the scratch and mould it into whatever I want and that’s me looking at the positive side of it. Whereas, my second answer was that yes, it will be a difficult situation and I’m afraid of it because I don’t know how that guy will turn out to be. Maybe we start at the wrong foot and the first line that we wrote on our blank page was wrong and it may lead us to write the entire book wrong.
So what do we do when we see a paradoxical situation?
It’s a gamble we all take. We see the dice roll and wait for its outcome because maybe the thing we are betting on turns out in our favour. Every endeavour you take has its own risks and you may face several paradoxical situations along the way but the only way to navigate through it is to go through your instinct. Well, there is a highly and likely chance of it turning out to be a bad penny but remember there is also a highly and likely chance of it turning out to be a good one. This is what we call life and its overflowing with these paradoxial situations.
Everytime we choose something we are taking a risk and hoping that it turns out the way we want and even if it doesn’t go our way we don’t let it stop us and every choice that we make paves our path for our own journey of life.