Making the right choices


“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.”
Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

Choices are what we make throughout our entire lifetime and yet we cannot harness it. Nobody thinks so keenly that a simple whim can change the track of your life by the choice that you make. However the worst is not knowing ‘what if I had made that choice’ part. This is what people call as free will. The ability to choose what you want.

You can never redo your life and that is why, its essential to atleast know and realise what choices you are making in your life. I just watched this movie LA LA LAND and it was good, but for me the best part of the movie was when Ryan Gosling played the piano in climax. In that one symphony, he envisioned a life which they would have led if they had made different choices. This is what we don’t realize that once a choice is made, it takes a solid shape and changes your life from what could have been if you had not made that choice to what it is after making that choice. You can never undo your choice and, redo your life. Probably all the people who watched the movie would have liked the life they led in that one symphony where they were together and happy. I for one rooted for that ending but no, no that’s not what happened. In reality they lived in their own separate and different worlds no matter how much they loved one another. This is what their choices led them to in their lives. However, there was that one smile that they shared mutually looking into each other’s eyes accepting and acknowledging that they are happy with their choices. And that is the moral of the story you don’t know the choices you are making however trivial they may seem , will lead you to god knows where in your life but , what you could do is to be ready to bear its consequences and be happy with it.

choice_main I just don’t understand when I see people making choices so frivolously or whimsically , that whether they really do not care what will happen after it? This free will and our ability to make a choice is the greatest gift that our creator has given us. The life you lead is made by the choices you make. Imagine a world where everyone made the same choice. Well! what fun would be in that if everyone led the same life. So you see your journey of life depends upon the choices you make by your free will. We all detest doing something for which we think we don’t have any choice. Remember how it makes us feel helpless and being helpless is the worst feeling in the world. So the gift of making a choice that has been given to us, atleast we should have a little care for it and do it wisely, because if not, then it leads to regret and regret too falls in the category of the worst feelings in the world.

So does making choices wisely means we make a list of pros and cons everytime we make a choice? Well, no! There should be a balance between making choices cautiously and making them recklessly. We should atleast think about the important choices, that what will happen in our near future as far as we can see if we make it. People who say they like to live on the edge and live spontaneously also made that choice. They somewhere have accepted it if the choice goes wrong, then its on their shoulders. Just don’t get influenced by those kind of people if you are not a person who lives that carefreely. Sometimes some choices may seem trivial but no, you don’t know a choice made precariously can also end your life in the next second.

“In the end that was the choice you made, and it doesn’t matter how hard it was to make it. It matters that you did.”
Cassandra Clare, City of Glass

It seems like we cannot lay the blame of how our life turned out on anybody else’s door. We have been given the power to change our lives at any point of time by making the right choices. So no matter how hard it is, put some effort in thinking and making choices so that your life is never filled with a regret of ‘WHAT IFs?’ or ‘IF ONLYs’. Life is too short and we each have our own share of misery, the least we can do is to make the right  choices that may get us out of it.

We are not God, neither prophets nor oracles. So we can never know where our choices will lead us in the end. All that we can do is just know how to live with our choices and endure the consequences of it, afterall our choices make us who we are.


Is anything replaceable?

via Daily Prompt: Replacement

So, this word ‘REPLACEMENT’ it kind of really intrigues me. Is anything or anybody really replaceable? Well, that is a million dollar question that I have always pondered about.

Even God in his own way has made everybody unique. Many people might say there are twins who look alike. Then there is that famous theory of the doppelgangers. Still even if anybody looks same or might behave mostly the same as other that does not mean they are the other. In true words “Nobody can replace anybody”.

The one thing that keeps me in awe of itself is that, there are billions of people inhabiting this planet Earth and some people do look alike but we all have different fingerprints. So imagine billions of people but no single pattern that occurs twice. God has created a masterpiece and each masterpiece has a unique identification key as their fingerprint. No one is a copy of anyone. This is just one inevitable truth about everyone being unique but the real thing is what makes you unique is YOU.

I for one would never enjoy a copy of an original. The copies have their own advantages but what copy can suffice an original. It is like living in a cocoon which looks like a paradise after seeing an actual paradise or tasting something that tastes like ambrosia but its not the original ambrosia. So,would anybody legitimately feel satiated with a copy of an original after experiencing and being in thrall of “THE ORIGINAL”?

Everything that is replaced in our life at-least for me definitely leaves a void behind which cannot be fulfilled by anything or anybody else. You can definitely make that hole grow lesser in size over a period of time but you cannot replace it wholly and that is indubitably true.

I remember I was having this talk with one of my friends where she felt that she is not being valued enough to be easily replaced by someone else. Even though one may feel that other people might concur with this general idea of replacing them by somebody else but the truth is, they are only replacing a quality or virtue in you by someone who can either quickly imbibe that, imitate that or already has that virtue or quality. So no matter how much anybody belittles you or disheartens you don’t let that get to you. You are a person of your own and nobody can replace that person solely.

Even a small gift given by someone cannot be replaced. So I don’t believe anybody or anything is completely replaceable.One can only substitute a minor part of that whole.