The Sun of our life

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There are people who make our life worth living for and there are people who through all that time help us live this life. We all have our life problems and issues that we deal with on daily basis. Then there are some extra crisis situations too where we think that “Am I going to get through this or not?”

“And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.”
Haruki Murakami

So yes, overall we are humans and humans have a tendency to be self-centered. We never think about the support system that we have which would have helped us get through it. There are so many people, problems that revolve around us in our lives but even in all this there is somebody who gives us the right gravity and keeps us grounded so that we can get through this life. Someone who gives us the right balance to navigate through this life just like the Sun which stands in the centre and gives the right gravity to other planets and our Earth, so that the life can flourish on it. Even the smallest particle in our universe has a nucleus just like the Sun to give it a shape, balance and existence.

“Sometimes people are beautiful.
Not in looks.
Not in what they say.
Just in what they are.”
Markus Zusak, I Am the Messenger

We all have our own Sun who lets us find our own way through any problems or crisis, only giving us a nudge in the right direction and always standing there as our support system. Each one of us has that one person or more than one person who plays that role of the Sun in our lives. We kind of harness all the energy and support that they may provide us with which just makes our lives a lot easier by making happy times more happier and sad times a little less glum. With them standing with us even in the eye of any storm the horizon seems nearer and clearer. They help us in seeing the silver lining of any cloud.

So although we have our Sun in our lives sometimes we forget to appreciate their being there. As humans we are more attuned to our problems, our feelings our everything and try to address them first but forget that somebody else is also addressing your concerns with you. Sometimes ignorance is not bliss. Finding our Sun and holding onto that Sun is what we need to do and even though its the easiest task still we can’t manage to do that right.

We humans cannot survive alone because we are social animals and living life can become a tedious task if you don’t have the right company. So as

 “You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.”
Mae West

Therefore find that person or persons who make the Sun of your life and hold onto them because life rarely gives second chances and having right people around you is what is going to get you through this life. We need to appreciate their value because they are the KEEPERS who we need to retain in our lives to make it more than a simple existence and a life worth living for.

Is the thing we look forward for also the thing we fear from?

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Have you ever faced a situation where you feel you are really anxious and looking forward to that thing happening is also the thing you are afraid of because you don’t know how it will turn out? I have been through these kind of situations so many times and I ponder and ponder and ponder that what could be the best course of action when I come across them. I call them PARADOXICAL SITUATIONS.

Paradoxical situations are those situations which have two completely different paths for outcomes and both 180 degrees apart. They are like a blank canvas given to you. If you paint it the right way then you can create a masterpiece however, it can turn into a bad piece with a single wrong stroke of a brush whether done intentionally or unintentionally. So, maybe the job you are most excited about is also the one you fear what happens if something goes wrong? or the budding relationship with someone you feel anxious to know how it turns out. Maybe he is the right one and you cross your fingers the whole time for that outcome but maybe it turns out he is not.

The recent situation that I came across was when yesterday my friend asked how would you feel if you get married to a stranger? Aren’t you afraid of it happening? But after introspecting I gave her two answers to the same question. My first answer was that it’s a blank page I can write anything over it from the scratch and mould it into whatever I want and that’s me looking at the positive side of it. Whereas, my second answer was that yes, it will be a difficult situation and I’m afraid of it because I don’t know how that guy will turn out to be. Maybe we start at the wrong foot and the first line that we wrote on our blank page was wrong and it may lead us to write the entire book wrong.

So what do we do when we see a paradoxical situation?

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It’s a gamble we all take. We see the dice roll and wait for its outcome because maybe the thing we are betting on turns out in our favour. Every endeavour you take has its own risks and you may face several paradoxical situations along the way but the only way to navigate through it is to go through your instinct. Well, there is a highly and likely chance of it turning out to be a bad penny but remember there is also a highly and likely chance of it turning out to be  a good one. This is what we call life and its overflowing with these paradoxial situations.

Everytime we choose something we are taking a risk and hoping that it turns out the way we want and even if it doesn’t go our way we don’t let it stop us and every choice that we make paves our path for our own journey of life.

What to do when frustrated?

creativity“WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU ARE FRUSTRATED?” This question is a part of our life and if not the question then definitely, its answer is an eminent part of our lives. Well, the answer is quite simple – ‘we vent it out’.

So what exactly do we do to relieve our frustration? I believe that the answer to this question lies in the fact that we express or channel this frustration into something else or somewhere else. The constructive way of venting out frustration is to channel this energy in a positive direction rather than going on a rampage and being destructive, because that will only add up to your frustration. Being grumpy and negative will only add up to your frustation and may lead you to depression in the long run. Understanding this concept is like a simple maths equation that two negatives don’t make a positive only a big positive makes something negative into positive. What I am trying to convey here is that, we should do things that makes us happy or help us to express ourselves in a creative manner.

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I categorize these art of expressions into 3 forms. That is we express ourselves in the following 3 ways:-

  1. First in this form of expression is PHYSICAL. We express ourselves physically in different forms like dance, playing sports, gyming, gardening, meditation etc , etc and even crying too. So whatever activity that you can think of which involves our physical strength comes under this form of expression.
  2. The second form of expression is VERBAL. For example we rant in front of our friends or sing a song, do karaoke etc. these are all oral ways of expression.
  3. The last and third form is WRITTEN and the best example of this form of expression is the post I’m writing myself. People paint, write poems, letters, mails, blogs, novels etc. and all this comes under this category.

If you notice then this pent-up frustrated energy if channelized in the right direction can produce your best work. So you see, creativity can be derived from frustration also and that is what I am trying to say only a positive cancels a negative.

Every cloud has a silver lining and that is why if you feel frustrated or low simply do something that makes you happy. Express what you feel in your form of expression. When my friend asked me yesterday that what do you do when you get frustrated, I replied without giving a second thought that I write . It kind of heals me and makes me feel happy and satisfied. So every time I write, I bare a part of me in a very generic manner but it’s there out in the open whatever I have felt, to be viewed or criticized by anybody or everybody. Maybe they can relate to it or learn something from it. Its my solace and similarly , it can be some other form of expression for someone else.

A lotus always grows in mud and it is still very beautiful. So make something beautiful and positive when you feel frustrated or low instead of sulking because that will eventually lift up your mood and make you feel good about yourself .

Thanks for reading! I would also love to hear your views so, feel free to share your thoughts with me. 🙂