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I am pretty sure that each one of us has experienced nostalgia. Looking at someone or something can churn our memories of it again and make us feel nostalgic. But the important question here is : “Does that nostalgia brings along regrets too?”

Life is made up of opportunities. Even if we don’t recognize them they are still present everywhere, all around us. It depends upon us whether we realize that it’s an opportunity or not and how do we harness it. Seizing the opportunity when you first recognize it is the most significant event that decides how your life turns out. There is a famous saying that “Everything happens for a reason” and we need to grab it when the opportunity is present not when it is gone because, you don’t know if it will present itself again or not.

Everybody is not fortunate enough to get second chances and that is why we should never take anything for granted in our life, whether if it is a person or an opportunity. The future is something which will always be unsteady and unsure and past is made of what we do in our present. So, we only have our present which can give us a happy past without regrets to look back at or give us a happy future based on what decisions we make in this present. 

What or who we neglect in our present will not be there the next time in our future, when we think, that we will need them. Maybe what you have today will not be there tomorrow. Someday or the other most of us make this mistake of taking this opportunity in our present for granted. The wise ones do it once and they learn and get over it, but some people are unfortunate enough to make this mistake many times repeatedly and still not learn anything from it. Those are the people who when look back are left with regrets thinking about what could have been if they had gone a different path leading to a wishful longing of getting a second chance. I wish that we all could have second chances to make amends for our mistakes but sadly enough, what I have learned from my past experiences and anecdotes is that life doesn’t gives us second chances and if given rarely then you are very lucky. The only thing that you can do is be wise and choose wise because one never knows what awaits in our future and nobody can frequently wish for serendipity and miracles to happen to them.

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Making the right choices

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“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.”
Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

Choices are what we make throughout our entire lifetime and yet we cannot harness it. Nobody thinks so keenly that a simple whim can change the track of your life by the choice that you make. However the worst is not knowing ‘what if I had made that choice’ part. This is what people call as free will. The ability to choose what you want.

You can never redo your life and that is why, its essential to atleast know and realise what choices you are making in your life. I just watched this movie LA LA LAND and it was good, but for me the best part of the movie was when Ryan Gosling played the piano in climax. In that one symphony, he envisioned a life which they would have led if they had made different choices. This is what we don’t realize that once a choice is made, it takes a solid shape and changes your life from what could have been if you had not made that choice to what it is after making that choice. You can never undo your choice and, redo your life. Probably all the people who watched the movie would have liked the life they led in that one symphony where they were together and happy. I for one rooted for that ending but no, no that’s not what happened. In reality they lived in their own separate and different worlds no matter how much they loved one another. This is what their choices led them to in their lives. However, there was that one smile that they shared mutually looking into each other’s eyes accepting and acknowledging that they are happy with their choices. And that is the moral of the story you don’t know the choices you are making however trivial they may seem , will lead you to god knows where in your life but , what you could do is to be ready to bear its consequences and be happy with it.

choice_main I just don’t understand when I see people making choices so frivolously or whimsically , that whether they really do not care what will happen after it? This free will and our ability to make a choice is the greatest gift that our creator has given us. The life you lead is made by the choices you make. Imagine a world where everyone made the same choice. Well! what fun would be in that if everyone led the same life. So you see your journey of life depends upon the choices you make by your free will. We all detest doing something for which we think we don’t have any choice. Remember how it makes us feel helpless and being helpless is the worst feeling in the world. So the gift of making a choice that has been given to us, atleast we should have a little care for it and do it wisely, because if not, then it leads to regret and regret too falls in the category of the worst feelings in the world.

So does making choices wisely means we make a list of pros and cons everytime we make a choice? Well, no! There should be a balance between making choices cautiously and making them recklessly. We should atleast think about the important choices, that what will happen in our near future as far as we can see if we make it. People who say they like to live on the edge and live spontaneously also made that choice. They somewhere have accepted it if the choice goes wrong, then its on their shoulders. Just don’t get influenced by those kind of people if you are not a person who lives that carefreely. Sometimes some choices may seem trivial but no, you don’t know a choice made precariously can also end your life in the next second.

“In the end that was the choice you made, and it doesn’t matter how hard it was to make it. It matters that you did.”
Cassandra Clare, City of Glass

It seems like we cannot lay the blame of how our life turned out on anybody else’s door. We have been given the power to change our lives at any point of time by making the right choices. So no matter how hard it is, put some effort in thinking and making choices so that your life is never filled with a regret of ‘WHAT IFs?’ or ‘IF ONLYs’. Life is too short and we each have our own share of misery, the least we can do is to make the right  choices that may get us out of it.

We are not God, neither prophets nor oracles. So we can never know where our choices will lead us in the end. All that we can do is just know how to live with our choices and endure the consequences of it, afterall our choices make us who we are.