Our entire life is captured in the memories that we have. Some are good and some are bad. Usually we remember the good memories occasionally when something fond happens to us but we cling to some memories which maybe good , maybe bad but somehow affects our present quite effectively. There are always some memories in the past that hold us back from living our present.
“Memories warm you up from the inside. But they also tear you apart.”
― Haruki Murakami,
The only thing that can help you overcome those memories is to recognize your own strength and realize that some memories are just meant to be cherished in your heart.
The hardest things for people struggling to overcome these memories are
- making peace with the past
- living in the present &
- welcoming the future.
If we can understand and achieve these three things in our lives probably we will hurt a little less. Latching onto these memories and recalling them in a loop is a kind of self afflicted torture. I recently saw this movie, ‘Dr. Strange’ where he uses this torture technique on the evil Dormammu. I suppose if something as evil as Dormammu could be tortured by the memory loop then we are just humans only. So discerning that having memories is good but this life can’t be just wasted on some memories is very important.We are always going to carry the beautiful memories that have been given to us by the people in our past and those are precious and irreplaceable, but we can’t just keep lingering in our past and wandering along the memory lanes in our mind.
These memories make our life worth living and we should always keep them with us but never let them get a hold of us. Well sometimes we do love to relive some memories but we should never make a habit of it because there lies the trap.So, we always need to keep in mind that we need to make memories from living our life but do not make living those memories our life.